Why Your Perspective is Important

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Your perspective is a key component to creating internal freedom. The story you tell yourself about yourself and your events and circumstances matters because it shapes how you define yourself and what you consider yourself capable of doing and achieving. 

While you can’t control what’s happened to you, you can take control and change your perspective on those events and circumstances. When you change your perspective and change your story, you can change your life. 

If you think that you can’t control your story, think again. The words that you use, and the meaning you ascribe to them, create responses in your brain that ultimately become your truth. 

For example, the more you tell someone you’re stressed out or overwhelmed, the more true that feels to you. On the other hand, the more you tell people “life is awesome” or you’re “crushing it” the more true and abundant it becomes!

So, how can you shift your perspective, and why is it important to do so? Let’s dig in!

How to take control of your perspective

Being able to control perspective and meaning is the key to your ability to constantly create the life of your choosing. I mentioned above that the words you choose become your truth. This is due to a physiological response in your brain and your body. 

Building on the example of telling someone that you’re stressed out or overwhelmed, have you ever noticed the physiological responses that your brain and your body experience as you’re recounting the never-ending list of “to do’s” in your day? Your chest tightens. Your breathing gets more rapid and more shallow. Your heart beats faster. Your speech gets faster the more stressed, overwhelmed, and exasperated you get. The physiological response in your brain and your body reinforce your experience of feeling stressed or overwhelmed, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You begin to experience the words you utter as truth.

You see, your words control your thoughts and stories, your thoughts and stories control your emotions, your emotions control your actions, and your actions control your results. 

In other words, the way you think about events in your life can change the outcomes of those events. When you can change your story, you can change your life; and when you can shift your perspective, you can claim your power.  

You can’t control what has happened to you

I know you can’t choose what’s happened to you. Believe me, I do.

You see, I am a domestic violence survivor. Things got bad. So bad that my health deteriorated and my life literally depended on the help of others to get me out. My removal from the situation took four police officers and my dad driving the getaway car. 

Two officers pulled me out of my apartment, two officers held my ex-husband back, and my dad stepped hard on the gas the second the officers put me in his car.

I was put into hiding and, for a while, I became a ghost. I was placed in a home with a man I didn’t know. I was terrified. I barely left my room and had lost all ability to make a decision. 

Every single day for nearly a year, I ate the exact same thing for breakfast, lunch and dinner because no one told me what to eat, and I simply was not capable of making my own decisions or functioning independently.

While I couldn’t control what happened to me, I eventually learned that I can control my choices. I can control the way that I choose to think about what happened to me, and I did. 

You can reframe your reality

I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage, “When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” When you are faced with an external event or circumstance that you cannot control, then you can only control your perspective of it. If you can control your perspective about the event or circumstance, you can take back your power and make the decisions necessary to control your outcome. That’s what I had to do.

One day, after months of intense trauma therapy, something shifted in me. I finally understood that, if things were going to get better, I had to make a choice. I had to be the one to decide that my life was worth more, that I was worth more. I began changing my story. 

Instead of seeing myself as the girl whose future had been snatched from her, I decided to see my situation as an opportunity.

I recognized right then and there that my experiences were a blessing. I finally understood that I was powerful beyond measure, and that I actually had control over my life in all aspects—even those that I had thus far felt powerless to control. 

I had the opportunity to build myself into whomever and whatever I wanted to be. I am now a totally different person than I was before that experience. I’ve adopted different values, priorities and paradigms, and have been able to design a life that I love. 

I realized that I had the power to write my own story, the way I wanted it to be … not my parents, not my past, not society, and not labels placed on me by an outside observer. Me. I had the power! I became my own source.

When you change the story you tell yourself about what’s happened to you, you change your life. You can reframe your reality. 

Take control of your narrative

Every day, you have the opportunity to write your story. You have the opportunity to reclaim your power, recalibrate your compass, and put yourself in the driver’s seat of your life. 

Sometimes, finding the empowering meaning and perspective in events or circumstances takes more work than others. Many times, especially when first reframing your story, it will be extremely difficult. I’m here to tell you that it’s always worth it. 

As you take control of your narrative, you will realize that external circumstances to longer define you. Instead, YOU DEFINE YOU. You define your dream life, and get to take control of your outcome. 

If you want to be in a room full of other people who are defining their dream lives, I encourage you to join me at my 3-Day Event, Live, Interactive Online Event that will help you create a joyful and abundant life you love. 

In this 3-day event, you will:

  • Identify where you are, where you want to be, and what is holding you back from living a joyful, abundant life you love
  • Align your mindset with tools & strategies to take you from where you are, to where you want to be
  • Design your custom action plan to help you live life on your terms… a life that’s free by design